Help Save My Marriage; The Golden Rule
Rex Freiberger
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One of the most common requests to marriage counselors and psychologists today is "Help save my marriage." With divorce rates for first marriages at an all time high and the divorce rate for second marriages above the 70th percentile, it is no wonder that so may people are trying to figure out what is wrong with their marriages. It is also no wonder that so many psychologists today are trying to help save marriage.
Marriages where one or both of the people in the couple are suffering from problems such as alcoholism, drug addictions, addictions to pornography, or where there is a presence of physical abuse are in need of serious therapy and rehabilitation. These are problems that can not be solved by the couple alone, no matter how much they want to help save marriage.
'The Golden Rule' helps save many marriages. If you find yourself asking the question what to do to help save my marriage then you might want to try this exercise. It has already helped many couples from failing marriages. Many know 'The Golden Rule' from their childhood, being do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
We all want to be treated properly and your spouse is no different. Use this as a guiding principle when talking to your partner. Make sure you speak softly and calmly. Be pleasant to them even in simple things like greeting them nicely when they get home from work. Don't nag for things to get done - you can ask nicely and then maybe do it yourself. Remember that you're working on and saving your marriage and a little annoyance is a small price to pay.
When you married this person, you loved them with your whole heart, right? In truth, you still do. Unfortunately, all of the garbage of life has blown through and covered that up. The mess can be 'cleaned up'. You have the answer to the question, "How can I help save my marriage?" Love means putting the other person's feelings ahead of your own, and in time they will do the same.
Lastly, don't read this and say to yourself, "I've tried that." and just give up. When there is hurt and pain in a marriage it may take some time for both people to come around to the conclusion that the situation is fixable. An evening of kind words won't fix a year or more of harshness and fighting. Remember that love is patient and working together slowly but surely, you can say, "I help save my marriage".
With divorce rates on the rise, more people are asking themselves, "How do I save my marriage?" There are many resources and options available to those who want to know how to save marriage. First of all, both parties must be willing to compromise and negotiate with one another. Marriage counseling can also help couples to resolve their differences. Saving a marriage benefits not only the couple, but also their children, who otherwise might be caught in the middle of an unfortunate battle between their parents. Recall the commitment you once made to your spouse, and you will often be able to save your marriage.
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